Limiting Beliefs
I talk a lot about change and what you need to do to elicit change. A lot of people I support come to me with lots of limiting beliefs; some are self imposed and some are wrapped in memories and emotions from their past. Without you knowing it, limiting beliefs can and will stop you moving forward in your life. Can you see any of these in yourself that may be stopping you from gaining the change you want?
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Maximising the fear of the unknown
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Spending a lot of time with people who think about problems the same way
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Don’t finish anything you start
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Create debilitating isolation
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Presume change is too much effort
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Have unrealistic time frames for change
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Tell yourself you can't or shouldn't
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Listen to people to may tell you that you aren't good enough
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Never think about different avenues or give up if it doesn't work first time
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Believe it may not happen
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Believe in your fears
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Doubt your own competence….. always
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Worry about the effect of change on others…. And do nothing
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Avoid thinking about change
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Accept you can’t do anything
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Don’t plan
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Shoot down ideas with other ideas to create a diversion
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Form a committee for change and have daily meetings with compulsory attendance
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Never deviate from routines (if you always do what you do you will always get what you get)
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Keep yourself under constant pressure
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Accept NO for an answer
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Create a very large standard manual
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Be conflicted and blame others
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Become cynical
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Never dream
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Think I can do everything or I should do everything
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Never accept support or ask for support
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Think that it is better the ‘devil you know’
The list could go on. Do you get the picture? All of the above (even one or two of the above) will have a debilitating effect on anything you are trying to change for the positive. You need to deal with them head on.
Start to think about you are self-sabotaging any positive change in your life. Take control of your own destiny.